Become a Prize FIghTER!
5 steps to becoming a prize FIghTER
That's F-I-T-E-R, in case you wondered...
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One inescapable aspect of embarking on a long journey is that we will have had a range of experiences along the way. Some of these have served to enrich, transform and encourage us, while others have hurt us and left us wounded; some experiences have confused us while others developed us in unforeseen ways.
Another inevitable aspect going on any journey is that we collect items... or baggage (things people have done or said that stick to or stick with us) along the way, often of no fault of our own! Painful words; unkind actions; repeated abuse, bullying or a traumatic experiences; each of these can sadly serve as permanent roadblocks to living the enriched life (socially, emotionally, and mentally) we so strongly desire.
Welcome to the human condition
The reality is that we've all got baggage (unresolved hurt, grief, frustration, bitterness, disappointment) --- it's inescapable.
However, when we start to unpack it and deal with it we can finally move forward freely to become the best version of ourselves.
I like to describe this process with the phrase “Becoming the 'wholest' version of yourself”. This simply means that our confidence has been redeemed, restored and healed, and we are able move forward in life with kindness, love and strength as our mantra. This is a “whole” person, and it can only happen if we confront the unresolved hurt, grief, frustration, bitterness and disappointment head on. We have to wage war on these feelings and emotions and see them no longer as our friend, but our arch-enemy.
Another way I like to explain wholest is like when the "puzzle" of your life has been completed and you can see the big picture - all the fragments come together to reveal the complete you in all your glory.
The journey getting there takes a lifetime, and it shouldn't be the focus of everything we do... but it's still good to consider any unresolved baggage to consciously and conscientiously run forward in life. Only the brave set out on this journey, and I've got good news:
No matter where you are on the trail:
YOU ARE BRAVE!
This is why superhero movies and fairytales resonate with us so well- the characters embrace the journey toward redemption; becoming the wholest version of themselves. They make for a great stories!
It’s true that hurt people hurt people; it’s also true that whole people inspire wholeness in people.
Be the latter.
Teachers- teach kids to be the best version of themselves.
Parents- raise your kids to be the best version of themselves.
EVERYONE- BE the best version of yourself!
If your kids (or students) are anything like me, then they might be prone to taking things personally (because of sensitivity or experience), have developed a hatred (or extreme dislike) of school, or have faked an illness to get
out of school. I see it all the time. It’s a real problem that takes care, compassion, time, healing and forgiveness.
So whether you yourself are working through bullying, teasing, hurt or trauma, or your kids are, here are 5 quick tips that I’ve discovered while offloading baggage that has tried to stick with me over the years:
How to become a FI(GH)TER:
Step 1: Forgive
Forgive whomever wronged you and then forgive yourself. Then move on.
Forgiving someone reclaims any power an experience or person has over you, including determining how you act or behave in the future. Forgiveness sets you free and it is a decision you make. Make a decision to do it today... and again and again and keep doing it more if you have to! I've had to forgive some people for some pretty horrible things, but in doing so I've been set free as a result. I am now happy when good things happen to the people who wronged me because I know that my joy is not dependent on them or on the past.